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Dating is hard. Trying to figure out whether or not you really like someone, if you can get along, if theres chemistry– it can be a stressful and anxious time.

I recently went on a date with someone and it went quite well. Everything was great, we clicked. Then, the next day.. it got weird. I started hearing phrases like “we have a lifetime together” or “when I get a ring on your finger” — WHAT! I know you for what, 72 hours?

Don’t get me wrong I do want a long term relationship with someone I’m in love with. I want it more than you know. But I don’t want to commit to someone I just met.

Now how much time do you devote to someone you’re getting to know? He is working 12 days straight 8-5pm daily and then goes to the gym for about 2 hours after work, everyday. We spoke Saturday night at 6pm and he asked if I had plans. I said i was going out for a drink with another friend. He said, since I wasn’t free, he was going to go out for dinner with his friends and would text me before he went home in case I was already at home from my drink, and he’d stop by. Perfect. I got a text message at 11:45pm saying “I’m going to bed, good night.” I also tried to solidify plans for Sunday since I knew I was going to be free, his response: I’ll just txt you tomorrow to see whats up.

Sunday, I get a text message at 6:45pm “what are you doing?” — I was at the airport hanging out with a friend who was sitting airport standby. He gets annoyed that I’m busy again. Now, remember, I tried to make plans with him the night before. I say to him, I’m sorry.. but I was tired of sitting at home waiting for a phone call.

Monday morning I get a text message that says, “thanks again for last night.” How ridiculously sarcastic! I was so outraged that he was acting like a child. I sent him the following:

I tried to make plans with you all night Saturday night for Sunday and your response was well, ill just txt you and see what’s up. I never hear from you till 6PM. Am I supposed to sit home and wait all day and night? You did the same thing Saturday night when you said you’d text before going home, to see what I was doing to maybe stop by. You instead, texted me when you were going to bed. I left my friends early at the bar to be home. Do you really expect me to sit around all day and wait for you to get out of work, and the gym, around 7:30pm to start my day and possibly make plans?

His response?

I just got upset because you already had plans all weekend and I told you I had to work. No biggie I guess. I also told you I always go to the gym after work. I like you and I’m trying to get to know you, but how am I supposed to do that if you’re always busy?

Seriously? I tried to make plans with him! He didn’t want to commit to plans for the next day though, and wanted to rely on texting me when he was done with his day, to tell me, I can begin mine. I’m not an on-call date. I won’t sit around all day and put my life on hold for the off chance of doing something at 6-7pm. Am I wrong in thinking that way? especially after I tried to make solid plans?

He can’t commit to plans for tomorrow, but he wanted to commit to me for ‘a lifetime’ after a one nighttime. I guess the dating game continues, though I think he was just dealt the ‘Old Maid.’

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